In an interview with Katie Couric in 2014, Taylor Swift said, “there's a special place in hell for women who don't help other women.” That quote was actually originally attributed to Madeline Albright, who often said it in her lectures and speaking engagements. Love or hate either of those women, there is truth to that statement. Or, rather, there’s truth to the inverse of that sentiment, that women (or men) who uplift other women deserve special praise.
One such woman is Medina Roberts, friend and owner of Virginia-based M&MXtreme. Medina coaches females (and males) with a passion for physique, fitness, body building and figure competition and does it in such an inspiring way that many of her clients are also ambitious and thriving entrepreneurs who seek to make the world a better place by helping others. Even though I can’t bench press my own weight, I sat down with Medina and learned that there are four common traits that all empowering people have, and I’d like to share them with you.
Reflect on the women in your life. Who truly impacts you? Why is that? We look up to women who empower us. Look around. You are most likely surrounded by inspirational women who are influencing their families and communities in ways that range from subtle to loud. Or, if you are reading this article, take a good look at yourself and what you bring to the table. The key is to realize that a women’s success can come in so many forms, not just career-wise or financially. Here, I list and define the four traits of what makes history-making women so impactful and empowering.
Four Traits of Empowering People:
1. Love – These are people who look at others in a positive light, seeing the inner and outer beauty in all. More than that, they help others see and honor their own beauty and strength. They see problems as opportunities. For example, if they see someone is lacking nutrition, exercise, or sleep in their daily routine, they provide encouragement – in a loving way – to alter things in their lifestyle to make those changes happen.
2. Attitude – They have a driving passion to bring out the best in people, even if it means some sleepless nights. They want to lift and empower others to thrive through finding and exploring their own passion and interests. They help others trust in themselves and their intuition by encouraging mind, body, and soul connections.
3. Action – They realize it’s not always about themselves and don’t just think about how to make things better, they take action. They also model how to infuse passion, values and goals into daily routines. They live through and with purpose.
4. Perception – Others love, respect, and appreciate their work. Do people believe in you, bring out the best of what you have to offer, and make sure you are fulfilling your dreams? Impactful and empowering people cross check their own agenda with the agendas of others, making sure that everyone around them is connected with their own purpose and passion – if not they stop and make a change to improve it. They don’t dwell on it but cycle back to love, attitude, and action.
As you go about your day today, take a few minutes to tell a strong woman in your life that she matters and makes a difference. Be specific and use examples. Then, watch as her face lights up as she realizes that she is recognized and appreciated. You’ll be glad – and feel uplifted – that you did!